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I realized that I was attracted to girls at a very young age, but I didn't really understand much about the "choices". I was raised in a VERY religious Roman Catholic family, and attended catholic schools for both grade school and highschool. I came out as bi when I was 16, but didn't tell my family right away. There were a small group of us that were "out" at my school and I felt a connection with them, but let's just say highschool was hell and I still have nightmares about it. My parent's were not pleased when I told then, in fact it is only recently that my mom has stopped telling me that she wouldn't choose for me to be gay but that she accepts it. My dad and I moved on to checking out girls together in bars though and occasionally asks about my bedroom life lol.
I've had many relationships with men, even after coming out as gay rather than bi, I suppose in the back of my mind I have always attempted to fit in. I think because I continued to date men a lot of my extended family didn't believe I was really gay until Ali and I got engaged, even then I think some of them thought it would pass.
Anyway this topic came about when I was at my mindfulness class and told a friend that my grandmother didn't approve of me being gay. He said that she should realize that I didn't choose to be gay and that she should accept me as I am. I'm all for that and I appreciated his support, but I was quick to point out to him that if I could choose I wouldn't change. I am who I am.
On a side note, I have had two friends come out to me and it was an amazing experience. Especially since one of them didn't have the courage to tell a single other person, I felt very honored.
thanks for listening!
Edit: Heh I just realized that I didn't actually detail my coming out. Basically I said to my friend Kat "How do I know if I'm Bi?" and she said "Are you attracted to boobs?" When I said "Yes." she dcalred I was Bi and I was out at school from that moment on.